Career and Life Planning Guidebook for Medical Residents

The Medical Relationship You can embark on this journey through self-study; However, if you currently feel a loss of hope or a depression that lasts more than several weeks, it’s time to let an expert help. Contact your residency administrator about counselors or programs that can help you work through this. Ask for recommendations if your non-medical SO needs assistance as well. R E A D : Relationship Intelligence There is a phrase often used for parents that states, “Love and accept the child you have, not the one you wish you had.” The same applies to marriage! We all wish our loved ones would act differently from time-to-time or better meet our expectations, but the reality is that we have what we have and our energy is better spent working with them, rather than trying to change them. As psychiatrist and author, Dr. Scott Haltzman, stated, “We need to say to ourselves, ‘This is the person I chose, and I need to find a way to develop a sense of closeness with this person for who he or she really is and not how I fantasize them to be.’” We all want to live in a warm, loving, and safe home. We all want to feel seen, heard, and understood. In order to continue working together and build greater harmony with your SO, you’ll need to get curious about how your relationship functions and then make small, daily choices to bring yourselves closer together. Here’s how: Begin by completing the following assessment. 73 WWW.PHYSICIANCAREERPLANNING.COM